Sunday, 13 January 2013

woodland garden of remembrance









(Haha!)





One of the reasons my mum wanted to come to visit me during Christmas was to visit my father's garden of remembrance. (And also my grandparents from dad's side, but none of us ever knew them and therefore they aren't that important. Remembrance-worthy all the same.) It's a pretty little place and it was a shame we couldn't find a flower shop that was open.

Also, can we talk about the financial profit gained by someone's death? It's ridiculous. We never bought a memorial placard, bench, bush, tree or anything for my dad. We had a wee funeral service in Finland and only years afterwards brought the ashes to England like my father wanted. Now we were contemplating the idea of buying something. But only the smallest thing would be a few hundreds and you'd have to renew it every 3/5/10 years. As I said, ridiculous. I do know having a concrete object isn't that important and one can remember loved ones wherever. Still, I'm not happy about making death into such profitable business. I meant this to be a nice remembrance post and turned it into a rant... oh, well!

7 comments :

Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird said...

Yeah that is pretty ridiculous. Death is ridiculous in general - it costs so much money when someone dies and really, why is a financial burden being put on the people left behind? Ridiculous.

Optimistic Existentialist said...

What an absolutely beautiful garden of rememberance. May I follow your wonderful blog?

Laura said...

Krysten - i know, dear! i think it's terrible how people want to benefit from someone's death and there shouldn't be a burden like that left on relatives as, most of the time, dealing with death would be hard enough without it. x

Optimistic Existentialist - it really is beautiful, hen! and you're more than welcome to follow! x

Marisa Noelle said...

I couldn't agree more! I was shocked at all the costs my mom and her brothers had to put forth for my grandparents' passings. It just should not be this way. They nickel and dime you for everything including just getting the name & date put on the gravestones.

On a happier note - what a beautiful day of remembrance for your father. That garden looks like such a peaceful place.

xo Marisa

Kati said...

I know what you mean! The last funeral we had in my family was over 1000 € - without the gravestone! It is ridiculous and just not manageable by someas it is so much money...!
-Kati

Nicoleta_B said...

Hi love,

very good initiative!!!

thank you so much for your lovely comment, dear.

kisses,

nicole

www.nicoleta.me

Laura said...

Marisa Noelle - yes, it is really shocking! obviously it can't be done for free, but having a price for every little detail is too much! and thank you, petal, it really is a beautiful and peaceful place! :-) xx

Kati - it really is too much money, honey! x

Nicoleta_B - thank you, chick, and you're welcome! x